Monday, April 8, 2013

One BIG baby bump!

I recently joked that I should crumble up all the paperwork and stuff it up my shirt, write pregnant and then take a picture as that would be ONE BIG baby bump!  It's a bit different as I don't have a physical baby bump growing so there's seemingly no physical sign that a baby is going to be arriving within said 9 months, but THERE IS A BABY ON THE WAY!  The big sign is at my house with piles of papers being printed, stacked, prepared, mailed and saved in Baby "M's" yellow crate to save and share with him/her later on in life.  Every child loves to hear their entrance to the world and family story.  So, I'm already preparing ours to share with the next Maynard child.  The average wait time for our 2nd adoption is 19 months, but Mark and I like to believe, like Niyla's adoption, that we are above average and hope that it won't take 19 months to continue to grow our family through adoption.   

How is this joyful when the process is so intense and literally hundreds of papers to complete and fill out, mail in, follow up on etc....well, simply seeing God's hand move with compassion upon people's hearts to join in the journey is joyful.  Seeing my friends and family sharing the news, the blog and the fundraiser on their facebook walls or hearing that they've shared in emails is truly joyful.  Receiving the special notes and cards and phone calls and friend inquiries about how it's going it joyful.  I have to admit, this journey has seemed a bit quieter, but I'm guessing that's because I'm busier with having Niyla and so I haven't been able to write a lot. 

So, in a typical pregnancy there's nausea, tiredness, worries, a growing baby bump, showers to attend, questions asked and bellies felt, an adoption journey is somewhat similar.  How?  Well, we adoptive mom's are tired, but not from hormones increasing and blood volume doubling from the growing child inside...we are tired from paperwork, education classes, making copies, watching after our child(ren) that we already have, creating profiles, writing letters, making a profile video in addition to working and doing every day life with all of its demands from the growing baby on paper and the one in our heart.  We worry about our baby that's growing in someone's belly.  We pray often for the birthmom and the baby's health and well being.  We worry about her decision of an adoption plan and hope she'll follow through completely.  Our own worries about being a new parent again or perhaps for the first time with the added costs that aren't typical for biological moms are all concerns that can be overwhelming at times.  Thoughts are frequently had for the agency that we are working with that they'll have the wisdom of God as they meet with families and birthmoms, counsel them, attend meetings at homes, go to courthouses and travel literally all over as they work tirelessly to bring babies and parents together.  This is something to be commended and joyful about!  Any time my heart feels overwhelmed, I talk about it, pray about it, write out my thoughts or just get down to business and get things done so I'm better prepared.  Of course, the Holy Spirit always reminds me of the perfect Scripture at the perfect time...most recently it's He perfects those things that concern me.

There is great joy in the journey of adoption and many things that we focus on and are thankful for.  Most reactions to adoption is to the tremendous cost that's incurred rather than the wonderful joy of a baby-to-be.  However, every time I look into my daughter's face, think about her adoption and what a joy it is to have her in our lives and family I never see $ signs.  In fact, I can honestly say the cost never comes to mind.  I've never been a person to allow something that I know the Lord has called me to do to be hindered by any hurtles including financial ones.  You see, God brought 60 special people to financially join our last journey along with a few great non-profit organizations who provide grants to families in need specifically because they know that finances is the main hurtle that families have to overcome.  Many families don't even pursue adoption once they find out the cost!  What a shame and how many families are missing out on this joyful journey?!  How many children are missing out on their forever family?  It doesn't take many or much to help. 

As you can see by the numbers, it was a few people that gave $25 or more to our adoption puzzle fundraiser which brought in almost all of the funds to cover our home study (the first major hurtle).  The remaining amounts were obtained through our own savings and cutting corners everywhere we could along with some grant money.  All adoption grants require a completed home study before even being allowed to apply for grants and these applications aren't for the faint of heart.  You practically have to be an accountant and do everything short of giving your blood type to apply, but I'm thankful anyway because these organizations are doing GREAT things to HELP families be complete through the gift of adoption. 

Do you desire to be a part of my growing baby bump?  I hope so!  We invite you to first PRAY for us, our baby and the birthmom.  Next, will you share this opportunity to be a part of our journey on your facebook wall and in a personal email to family and friends?  Lastly, will you give any amount you desire to help us bring Baby "M" into our home and family?  It can be $1 or $100 or $1000...doesn't matter to us.  It's simple and only takes a minute.  Just click the DONATE link on our home page of this blog at the top right-hand side and give to our adoption and by that, you are helping a baby find a forever family.  We want you to join and be a part of this wonderful experience with us and appreciate your generosity!

Thanks for helping us make our way to Baby "M"...wherever he/she/they may be...Yes, "they" never know...could be twins this time!  :)

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